Sometimes I'd like to ask God why He allows poverty, famine and injustice when He could do something about it. But I'm afraid God might ask me the same question.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Adoption,,, excuse me while I get a few things out there.

Adoption is my passion. It is a wonderfully difficult blessing when you know the purpose God has put on your life. Figuring out what exact direction to focus that passion has me completely and utterly confused. I struggle with how much information to put onto my blog about adoption and my heart for the millions of children waiting for families as I know this blog is also a family journal that sometimes speaks to the wonderfully simple family things as well. My girls are my daughters and I never want anyone to view them as "poster children" for my passion. I have spent the past few years completely absorbed in the ins and outs of adoption. The children who wait are what really hurts my heart. Especially when I see hundreds of people waiting and wanting to adopt, or even worse, people giving up on their dream of adopting. Why should you have to wait to adopt when their are so many children wasting out their days waiting for a family.

If you are considering adoption or are stuck somewhere in the process, keep reading: You don't have to wait!! You have to fight for you kids everyday of their lives, it is part of being a parent. When you start the adoption process you better be ready to put up a fight. You need to do your research, you need to be proactive, you need to make some phone calls, you need to ask TONS of questions, you need to ask TONS of questions to tons of agencies, to people who have adopted before. Especially people who know what they are doing. YOU CAN ASK ME, and I know several other people you can ask too. If you call one place and you get discouraged , call someone else. If you want my opinion of the best adoption agency for China's waiting children ... the one that will help you find your child and actually communicate with you, you have to call B.A.A.S., We used them for our adoption with Finn and it was amazing. Xiaoqing (pronounced Show-ching)the China coordinator, found Finn for us 2 days after I contacted her (notice I say 2 days after contacting, not after sending in $$, or our dossier). She will go to great lengths to help you find a child... Everyone who has contacted her, has found their child. She is passionate about the Waiting children of China, I am amazed by her. If you are looking for an agency to start an adoption,or if you are stuck with a different agency that is not helping you find your child. You need to call her! Her number is 415-459-2481
If you have any questions for me ask away, I will try to answer them. If you want me to respond privately leave your email address.

13 comments:

Mandy Jo said...

Great Blog:) Adoption is a great passion to have!:) I love everything that is involved with it:)!

Sharing Life and Love said...

Well said Amy---you are sure to inspire and enlighten many!

Jennifer Barbee said...

Amen Amy! I second your comments about BAAS. And, I would encourage anyone with questions to contact YOU. You helped me so much.

Michelle said...

Just wanted to let you know we had a great time at the park and would love to do it again.. Thanks for the info on the agency when we are ready I am going to be giving them a call.

Blessings

Cathie Comfort said...

Thanks Amy for posting this. You know you were a big part of our switching to BAAS- and agency I would have never even heard of. Now, 5 months later, we are getting ready to pick up our daughter. Thank you Amy! Thank you BAAS!

Cocorue said...

i left a message a couple of hours ago and i just had to return to read more......

your family is so lucky to have you and your husbee in their lives....having 3 beautiful kids and adopting 2 more...it's like your hands are still not full...

you are truly an inspiration and i wished i'm that selfless

your new admirer and hopefully friend
lilian and her chi, coco

Hebnix said...

That was a very good post Amy. That is one of the reason's that I have not made my blog private. I remember all of those months of waiting for our daughter, how it just made me feel better to read about others who it had already happened for...

I hope that your posting helps match a few more of these kids! I know 1st hand how awesome they are! Follow that passion!

Sherri Smith said...

Amy,
Thank you for your post!! I just found you through the china talk forum. I have been sooo discouraged lately. My hubby and I have been discussing giving up. We have been waiting 3 years for our girl and have been trying to switch to NSN. Our agency just joined in June and it hasn't gotten any better. They haven't gotten referred children since July and they are having trouble access the "main" list. I am so fustrated, but my heart breaks when I think about walking away from my girl, our dream. I just can't take anymore heartache.
You have given me inspiration. I will be calling your agency recommendation today. We felt stuck, and I feel like I have been dragged through it all (we tried switching to another agency before and were told we were not allowed).
Your family is so beautiful. We have 3 kids of our own. They can't understand why there little sister isn't here yet. Hopefully finding your agency and your supporting words will change our situation.
Thank you! Thank you! Thanks!
sherbearsmith@yahoo.com

Gretchen said...

Well said.

I do not think that you use your children as poster children. Your children are your children first and always. But adoption is an experience that your whole family is a part of. I think we all have the responsibility to spread the word to others and advocate for the precious ones who are still desperately waiting for a family.

chksngr said...

love you girl and love what you stand for! You're awesome!

Bailey said...

This post is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your passion. Your daughters are so adorable. A look into those eyes and one can see why you feel the way you do.

monica said...

I appreciate so much that you shared these feelings. I, too, have made a mental note to keep track of this post and contact you someday, if necessary. I just have one simple question--how do you do it?!
Blessings, Monica

Lobsters and Ladybugs said...

Hi Amy,
Michelle D (Makenna's mom) gave me your blog address.. we missed you in China by just a few days.. we were in Guangzhou May 18 to get our now 22 month old daughter, Caiya. We live in the Charlotte area and would love to get together with you sometime.. Blessings!
Aimee
http://adoptinglittleone.blogspot.com