Thursday, September 29, 2011
Hey all, I just had to share that I am cross posting Ty's one year gotcha day over www.weargraftedin.com today. You can also click the button on my sidebar located just at the top right. I LOVE this blog for the honesty and to get a glimpse into the real heart of adoptive families and I am so happy to be a contributor!
Monday, September 26, 2011
Friday, September 23, 2011
One of my goals in parenting my kids is to raise them without that spoiled brat sense of entitlement. It seems like a wide spread epidemic of sorts. I may not have done everything right but I know I got this one point right with our grown teenager as he is the one that calls me out when I whine or complain about the little things that get me all twisted up.
But as a mother it is a fine line where you want to give your child everything you possibly can but you don't want to spoil them. I had a bit of an eye opening experience a few months ago and yeah...I'm just now getting around to sharing it. Stick with me now,,,there is a point to this story.
Kobi's teacher just happens to be the most fun teacher you could ever have as a kid. She had noticed that I had painted Kobi's fingernails to look like ladybugs and she invited me to the classroom to paint all the girls nails. They were studying insects and ladybugs so we could put a fun spin on their lesson. See, super fun teacher! Of course I jumped at the chance.
Now, I will have to say that we live in an area smack in the middle of suburbia, where 99% of the children have never wanted for anything. Most of the children in Kobi's class have a nicer wardrobe than I could ever hope for. I got to her class and set up my little salon. The girls took turns and one by one I sat there painting their little nails. I chatted a bit, but mostly listened, and these little girls were teaching more than I could ever imagined.
The joy on their faces was priceless, they were over the top thrilled by their little ladybug nails. But it was their words that got me.... "Do you paint Kobi's nails like this all the time?" "Kobi is so lucky that you know how to do this" "When I grow up, I'm going to learn how to do this so I can paint my daughter's nails!" "I wish I could do this at home" "Where did you get all of this cool stuff?" " Do you have these things at your HOUSE?" At that moment I was climbing towards "Taylor Swift" status. I know for sure the joy on their little faces would have been the same if we were sitting in a poverty stricken orphanage.
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
So I have been MIA while my computer was at the doctor... man I accomplish so much more around my house when I don't have access to a computer :) Anyhow, while I was away I missed blogging about a pretty momentous milestone around here. Ty's one year Gotcha day. It has been a year filled with witnessing miracles and one of the hardest years of my life all at the same time. For the girls we always celebrated their gotcha day with a yummy dinner and a small gift that we bought for them in China. But we are treading on different ground this time around. Last week when we told Ty that his special day was coming up he started to get sad and has a lot of questions. Not the kind you would expect. He does not ever want to talk about his time in China. We bring it up often or try to ask him questions which he NEVER answers. We all love China and talk about one day going back with the entire family. He will quickly pipe up and remind everyone that he does NOT want to go to China. When the conversation does turn to China he usually starts to question me and asking me, "Mommy, what took you so long to get me in China?" "Why did it not take a long time for you to get Mina and Finn in China?" "Mommy, you should have gotten me first!" "Mommy, I want to be a baby when you get me in China." I think he blames me for the fact that he waited so long.
And then sometimes he just tells us that he WAS a baby when we came to China. I think he would love to just gloss over and pretend that is how it all went down. Denial. I totally understand that. I don't know if I will ever be able to tell him the truth that I had seen his sweet face waiting on waiting lists for over 2 years before I even thought about the possibility of adding another child to our crew. I do know for sure that for the past year this boy has loved like I have never seen, he has the biggest heart I have ever known and I am blessed to be his Mama.
Needless to say we didn't celebrate too much, I don't think he would have appreciated it. He wants so badly to just forget, to be just like his big brother and not have this past. So we just went on like any other day. But I went back to look at some pictures of my boy one year ago and I broke into tears.
Now, if you put these pictures side to side I wouldn't pick my boy out of a line up. He is a totally different child. He looks and acts like he has aged 4 years in the past 12 months.
Friday, September 9, 2011
The kiddos started school!!! I L.O.V.E. these little people, love them a bunch, love them with all of my heart, so please don't think I'm a horrible person when I confess that during the last few weeks of summer, I have a little countdown to the first day of school playing in the back of my head. In case you were wondering, having 6 kids is hard, like really hard. And summer break is about a week longer than I am personally qualified to keep this crew together 24/7 without becoming homicidal or suicidal...but that is just if I'm being honest. Any-whooo...this is my motley crew early , 6:45 a.m. early, after a long summer break...we all walked them in the first day...Finn is yawning and wearing a shirt that belongs to one of her older sisters. Lord help us!My school kids! Ty's first day was actually an assessment so he had a week off in between his first and second day.
Now see this pic.. when you look at it do you get the impression that my girls sit on the sidelines soaking up educational books at great lengths? Quietly, and all mellow like so we can relax and enjoy the games of the older kiddos?