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Tuesday, June 8, 2010

A must read for adoptive parents...

When I was at the Orphan Conference last month, I had the honor to meet Dr. Karyn Purvis, and to sit in on a few of her lectures. What a truly amazing woman. I was glued to her every word. I have read my share of attachment and adoption parenting books but truly this one is a must read. I really wish I could have heard her speak or read her book before we brought Mina home. She explains so simply the attitudes and behaviors that our children use to cope. I spent a year struggling with some of Mina's behavior, feeling like she was being manipulative, controlling and just plain difficult. I can read this book and see every single one of Mina's behaviors spelled out as fear. Oh how I wish I would have handled so many things differently :( Good thing that she is doing a million times better than she was a year ago, but I am reading this book again this week and can still gain so much wisdom from it. It is such a wonderful book. Here is a link to read chapter 4 for free. http://empoweredtoconnect.org/pdf_files/Connected-Child-Chapter-4-Excerpt.pdf

11 comments:

myra said...

I noticed on an RQ page your new little one is in Jiangsu!! Do you mind sharing what orphange? We DID put in LOI for our little one (I made an earlier post about not quite having your happy ending) and we are also in Jiangsu and we are about on the same time frame. I'm mdelu on RQ...PM me there if you'd prefer!!! Good luck on your paperwork! I feel for you!

Cara said...

I have that book in my pile of "must reads". I'm glad the hear again how good it is!

Jeanette said...

Yes! It was so awesome being able to listen to her at the orphan summit and I too think the Connected Child is a must read for all adoptive parents. I also have learned about how I can apply things from her book with my bio kids too.

Hope things are running smoothly with your paper chase for your little man! Praing for you all!

Love for Lilly Yin said...

OH! I read it twice before we left, and about 100 times after we got back. I have TWO copies! LOL! I also really like Attaching in Adoption.

Michelle said...

Thanks for the info I have not seen this one I am ordering today. We need to get together and play I want to hear all about your new little one.

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...

Thanks, Amy! I haven't read that one. I'm going to order it and hopefully have it to read on the plane!

Tammy

Our family: said...

Hi Amy!

Congratulations on starting your next adoption!! So exciting!! Hang in there with all the paperwork. The blessings will far outweigh the grief (as you already know!)

I just finished reading The Connected Child a month ago. I love all the practical points she gives. The author was on Family Life Today a few months back. If you didn't get a chance to hear her you download the podcast.

So excited for you and I'm looking forward to hearing more about your Bloom Project.
Blessings,
Lydia

Gretchen said...

Love this book! I have read it a couple of times. Very helpful.

rgshrs said...

Thank you for sharing that book! I really MUST pick it up and read it.

andrea said...

just finished this book LOVED it!!! a must read for all of adoptive parents.

andrea

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